Retrenchment and Resilience (Help)


I have many people reaching out to me privately on what they can do to help pivot their mindsets after reading my original post on Retrenchment and Resilience 
Here is part 2 on the tools and essential oils that I have found helpful. I pray that this post serves you too.
Here’s some tools and oils that could be helpful. It could be wise to use a combination of both. Pick the ones that draw you in.
Simply put, our thoughts and words shape our reality in time so being intentional in our thoughts help us too, to create the reality we want too.
Here’s a simple way to change our perspective by changing the words we use. Pick a situation that you are unhappy or frustrated with.
For example, you could be unhappy with work. (Ok I can hear your mind going off at 1000 miles an hour on how much you don’t like it.)
Then say or write this sentence:
“I GET to do this work because….”
For example:
“I get to do this work because I can provide for my family.”
“I get to do this work and get to pick up new skills at the same time.”
“I get to do this work and practice being resilient too when times are stressful.”
Keep building up this list! How do you feel now after the exercise?
I noticed that when I feel stuck in a emotion and keep going round in circles, one of the most helpful things I can do for myself is to BREAK STATE.
What is break state? In NLP terms (google Neuro Linguistic Programming if you want to know more about it), a break state is a sudden change in the context of speaking or movement that changes a person’s state quickly.
It could be as simple as going for a walk. The other method I like, is to stand up and move my body. Even doing some quick jogging on the spot helps too. The mind and body are interconnected so if your mind is feeling stuck on an emotion you don’t want, move your body to shift your mind.
If you don’t have the option to speak to an empathetic friend about your troubles, write down your thoughts and how you feel. Give yourself permission to just rant – there’s no need to be politically correct or censor yourself.
Don’t like writing? Then take your smart phone and pull out the audio recording app in it. Most phones come with it (or you can downoad). Then off you go, offload how you feel!
I noticed when I feel stuck in a yucky emotion, I am also unsettled, unsteady and uneasy. I like Grounding because it helps me to find my footing and have a sense of being anchored into stability and strength. I need that in order to start saving myself from that situation.
With negative emotions, I realised that I could hold on to it for yokes even after the event has passed. Case in point, I was actually still traumatised by retrenchment, even FIVE years after it has happened and I’m already in a good place. Emotions can affect my hormones and thus my health so releasing is so important for me.
With Release, if you are working on anger, try applying it over your liver (right of your tummy). Grief? Over your lungs.
Present Time

So often I found myself resisting what I am feeling and thinking. I tried to play it down, distract myself, avoid it. Or keep thinking about the past where things are better or dream of escaping into the future where all this is behind me.

But the present is where my powers and abilities are. Present Time goes a long way for me to practice acceptance of the current situation. Because once I stop resisting and accepting it, my mind is more able to find solutions around it.

When I am stuck on a belief and I am HURTING because it does not serve me, I use Transformation.
Transformation is my gentle way of shifting gradually into a new mindset that supports me moving towards what I want. This was also one of my most powerful oils to help me make the transition from being an employee to being a successful entreprenuer when I was filled with so many doubts on whether I could actually do it.
How to apply:
With these oils, my favourite place to apply is my forehead, temples and on my chest.
Would you like to let the wisdom of your body decide? Then drip the oil on your cupped palms, and ask quietly, “Where does my body need this oil?” Then let your hands drop. You may find that your hands will instinctively go to that place that much needed it. We have trigger points all over our body and you might actually be drawn to applying the oil on one of them that helps you to work through your emotions too.
Many thanks to One Drop too for featuring both posts in the May newsletter!

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