- I sat beside Juvia. She cried and cried. I just hugged her and rubbed her back, soothing her… going “Ya, I understand… its tough on you…. mmm…. mmmm.” Empathy empathy, no judgement, just being there for her. She usually quickly calmed down when no one tries to scold or correct her.
- I rubbed Valor on her throat (courage to speak) and Rose over her heart (confidence, healing). You can use Geranium, Believe, Frankincense as alternates. Grounding on her temples and forehead (steadies her).
- Reiki her heart, infuse positive energy.
- I ask her to hold a Labradorite crystal (grounding, courage). Even if she does not feel the effects, at least she’s holding something to fidget with rather than squirming over her fears.
- We talked. I asked her open ended questions… “Juju, can you tell mama why you are so scared?” “What will help you to feel better?”
Nods nods and empathises. Told her that Mama is also not good in her Chinese. Sometimes Mama is scared too but if we can do it scared, we feel even more confident afterwards.
- If she’s still inconsolable and refused to do, we take a snack break. Drink some water, walk around the home for a bit.
- Emotional Freedom Technique or else known as tapping helps to short circuit fear too. See here for demo – https://m.facebook.com/groups/159560944236521…
- I examine the triggers that SPIKE her fears. In this case, it was the headphones that she wear to record her reading. And the constant correction on her pronunciation.
- REMOVE TRIGGERS – I changed things up. I asked her to record into my phone instead of the system. She was so fearful of recording the wrong thing into system that it’s better to give her an alternative. Removed the headphones. Didn’t correct her and told her just say “skip!” if she doesn’t know how to pronounce.
- REFRAME – She was fearful of doing it and wanted to do it PERFECTLY. I explained to her “Well, it’s also good to anyhow anyhow do it first and we improve along the way!” -> reframe her from getting stuck at being perfect to do it scared and improve as she goes along. Faster too.
- When she fidgets at HBL, I got her to do squats and read at the same time. If she forgot some words, then she runs around the home 10x and keep prattling off the words. -> Using the body to learn (somatics).
Results? She got more confident as she goes and we managed to cut down her 2 hours stuck at that part of Chinese HBL to just 20 mins to submit the assignment. She learn how to read louder even if she’s scared and not feeling confidence and just roll with her mistakes anyway. While her pronunciation may not be the most accurate at this point, I believe we can sharpen it along the way.